Those who have seen anxiety up close agree it’s a disabling, powerful and wearing condition that can attack both the sufferer and their relationships. If you live with an anxious partner, it can be a struggle. You may find it frustrating or find yourself angry with your partner, at the same time as wanting to… Continue reading Support an anxious partner
Sadly, addiction is not an illusion. A key driver of addictive behaviour is the illusion of emotional stabilisation and feeling better for it. How compellingly seductive this illusion can be, is proven by the financial expense and health risks we are prepared to take. As well as the lengths we go to deny ourselves or… Continue reading The Illusion Behind Addictive Behaviour
Men and women are different. Well no great surprises there. Scientists confirm that men and women’s brains are wired differently, although the differences are relatively small. However the way in which men and women deal with their mental health, suggests a vast difference between the sexes. Gender stereotypes mean men often feel stigmatised if they… Continue reading Men and Depression
Narcissists will often acknowledge that they are indeed narcissists, when asked, but toxic people will deny their behaviour and even try to convince you that it is you, rather than them, who has the problem with objectionable behaviour. Toxic behaviour is subtle and undermining and contaminates your self-esteem and self-concept. However, toxic people often start… Continue reading Spotting the initial charm of toxic people
For one human being to love another, that perhaps is the most difficult task of all.” (Rilke) Behind many clients’ issues coming into therapy is the question of relationship; we are biologically created to live with others, and yet relationships can very often bring pain and distress. The fact that they can also bring joy,… Continue reading Relationship is the issue
Sooner or later we all experience a life transition. This might involve leaving school and going to university, or becoming married or giving birth. Life’s transitions can be very challenging because these are not necessarily planned for and may be thrust upon us. Sometimes we can be resentful of the changes a transition creates in… Continue reading Life’s transitions and therapy
A recent incident between Nigella Lawson and her husband Charles Saatchi is discussed by some in the context of domestic abuse. What is this and how can counselling help? Domestic violence can occur in relationships across the board, irrespective of social standing, gender, ethnicity, religion, age or other strata. According to the charity Refuge, an… Continue reading A Playful Tiff or Domestic Abuse?